I don’t know about you, but anxiety doesn’t seem to solve anything. I woke up at 4 AM and couldn’t go back to sleep. My head seemed to be spinning with unmade plans and unfulfilled commitments. Not to mention all the other stuff… It’s hard not to feel anxious right now, given all the things…

I’m not setting goals this January. And that’s ok. Whether we like it or not, the new year arrives with an attitude of transition, an insistence on starting anew. Some people love this. It offers a chance to set intentions, release old habits, shake off the dust, and re-emerge to themselves. Others dread it, because…

As we close 2025, I am left holding a shapeless life, like slime slipping through my fingers. It’s all there, but so difficult to form into a solid. Maybe life is meant to be this way, maybe it’s meant to be slippery so that we don’t get too attached, too rigid. I’d definitely rather be…

This has been a rough Christmas; it’s been a rough year to be honest. There’s just been a pile of hardship, and I don’t want to whine, but I can state them all objectively. I was hit by a drunk driver, injured badly with a brain injury and damage to my spine. I found out…

What does it mean to live without regrets? Miriam Webster defines regret as “sorrow aroused by circumstances beyond one’s control or power to repair”.  That makes a lot of sense, as we think about regret to mean: I don’t know about you, but all of these feel like we are giving the power elsewhere. We…

When I used to think about untying my lines, I was full of a sense of freedom and adventure. I felt nothing but potential and the thrill of my own capabilities. It felt like I was ready to tackle any challenge and there were no limits to where life would take me. The secret was…

Authenticity is polarizing, and as you pursue your true self, you have to be authentic.  But our success in the world is often dependent upon being liked by the majority and acceptable to everyone. There has been so much discussion recently about authenticity and vulnerability. Moving to remote work with the pandemic gave us a…

When I think about untying my lines, I don’t see it as a journey of selfishness. I think about it as an awakening to oneself. As we transition into adulthood, our identities become heavily burdened by other people, social norms, cultural obligations. We believe the stories we are told, and we willingly jump on the…

One of the lessons I’ve learned as I’ve been untying my lines is that I struggle with boundaries. One of the primary reasons that I couldn’t stay in my marriage is that if I asserted myself to achieve equal footing in the partnership, I would trigger my partner and end up on the receiving end…

I had a terrible dream this week. There were three distinct story lines, and in each scenario, I was in a helpless, “less than” situation with a man. But surprisingly, I wasn’t fighting it. It was a helplessness that I had given into. I had surrendered to it. In one of the stories, I was…